It was my perception that advices are a complete load of crap. I always felt that it was very easy to give advice because it costs nothing to you and you are not the one to follow it. I beleive that, most people cannot completely replace themselves in others’ shoes to come up with an advice that would reflect the same thought process that someone is going through. Truth be told, I myself give a lot of advices though the internal contradiction always haunted my mind when I gave one. I listened to a talk today which gave an interesting perspective about advices and it changed my perception of things.
In a nutshell, an advice is considered only as effective as your detachment of personal and emotional feelings on the matter under discussion. I thought about it. It makes perfect sense. Whenever personal and emotional feelings get on the way, rational decisions are seldom made. Typically, when we need advices, we need a rational eye which is void of all the emotional involvement that we encounter. And thats what we get from our friends and families. There is no point complaining about why they didnt feel the same way as we did. Because, they never will and they never should. As I analysed it more, I figured that it is probably a right thing to do to ask or give advices to others. Another way to think about it is that, if you find yourself in an emotionally intense situation, it might help if we can visualise ourselves as part of a movie or a friend who is going through similar situation and find a solution to the problem at hand. The visualisation will do the trick of detachment for you. Getting advices when you really dont need them is a completely different story…Thinking about it, is this entire blog an uncalled for advice?…:)