And yet, Life goes on….

09 Aug

I walked into curves with the bladder cancer pamphlets firmly tucked in my arms.Bladder cancer is the third most recurring cancer in the US and is rarely known to people, especially women , who tend to ignore the basic symptoms. Feeling good that I am trying to spread awareness and having already obtained permission from the manager, I promptly handed the pamphlets to one of the coordinators.One of the other workers, who had no clue about this, asked me about the pamphlets. On hearing it was about cancer,she said,”Oh! cancer is so depressing. Why do you want to put up such pamphlets. Nowadays, you hear about cancer everywhere”.On a further note, finding it was about bladder cancer,she said,”What is bladder cancer, girl?. No..I dont want to hear about it. I am sure it will be something depressing”.I came home , quite upset, my mood being set by the above statements, wondering when people would change. Some friends visited us that night .We were discussing about the movie Kandahar, a reality movie,which shows people struggling in Afghanisthan for things that we take for granted. We decided to watch some other movie as Kandahar is too depressing to watch and will not lighten up the mood. I was wondering how the lady , who is shown suffering in that movie ,would feel listening to us call the movie depressing.I woke up the next morning, everything forgotten, opened google news only to find out about the raging war in Lebanon. “Oh no ! one more war. Man..these wars are too depressing.”….


Posted by on August 9, 2006 in From AM-KICKING blog


7 responses to “And yet, Life goes on….

  1. bumblebee

    August 10, 2006 at 1:19 am

    It is sad that reality is mostly depressing 🙂

    On the other hand, ignorance is bliss…(albeit, for a limited time only)

  2. Mindframes

    August 10, 2006 at 3:01 am

    I think, most of us consider ourselves to be the center of the universe. So, anything that directly affects us is the one we care about and dismiss everybody else’s worries or concerns as trivial. If we apply this principle to everything that happens around us and to everyone involved in it, it is no wonder for us to visualise anybody else’s problem’s as depressing unless the problem has some direct connection to our problems.

  3. Travel Lover

    August 10, 2006 at 12:40 pm

    I have gone back and forth on this. I have wasted several good days of life worrying about my problems and then another several days worrying about friends, sisters, co-workers etc.
    2 ways to look at this. For one, when something happens to us, we have to also take action on it, and so cannot help thinking about our own. But when something happens to others, we can help them in some way if possible, say some good things to help them, but beyond that, what happens to a human if they start to get overwhelmed with problems about everyone they are associated with? They pretty much stop functioning and lose all faith in life and a line has to be drawn somewhere. May be it is not the same thing to think about others and be depressed about them. But some people lack the ability to hear, think, feel and move on and not get absorbed by it. So, for the most part, I think, upsetting as it may be, one has to hear and deal with reality. On rare occasion, I have also made choices to not read or listen to something I cannot handle, especially when it is in some far away part of the globe where you cannot do much other than be very upset. Bottom line, each human has a different way of reconciling with things that happen around them, some with practicality and courage and others with a ton load of emotion.

  4. Saumya

    August 10, 2006 at 6:34 pm

    Hmm….this is something I have thought about a lot too. I have a very low threshold for seeing suffering, and any heart-rending images: I scramble to switch channels. I empathize with their suffering: I just can’t see prolonged images of it.

    You have touched 2 important topics: one is awareness and the other is sensitivity to portrayal of unpleasant situations. With regards to the latter, I guess different people have different thresholds.

    But with the former, I agree that we need to make ourselves aware of certain issues.

  5. Survivor

    August 10, 2006 at 10:33 pm

    We are thinking in the same wavelength.Thats exactly what I wanted to convey . No wonder I am married to you..:-)
    Yes,I was talking about sensitivity but mostly wanted to portray how one would react to things depending on their circumstances.The threshold will vary if the war is in lebanon or in chennai.I think empathizing denotes character but your reaction or some fruitful action towards someone’s suffering varies depending on how involved you are in that situation.Something that you would consider trivial will shine in a totally different light when it happens to you.For ex, the lady at curves started empathizing with me once she learnt my background and almost apologised to me. Till then, she found the situation depressing.We are humans and we will be selfish with various degress of threshold.I am selfish enough to think about my problems and ready to criticize others who dont understand my situation, but behave the same when it comes to someone else’s problem.That is the crux of the blog.

  6. BrainWaves

    August 12, 2006 at 3:36 pm

    Hearing people suffering where we have less or no control makes me sad. It stays in the background thought process for a long time.
    I think that is when people go in search of Prayers and Hope!

    But as you mentioned, life certainly goes on…


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